How does therapy work?
Psychotherapy is a long term enterprise that requires a lot of involvement both on the part of the patient and the therapist. In order to develop new ways of thinking, to learn about other perspectives and ways of perceiving the world, to heal your emotions, to understand why you act in this way or another – you need time, and you need to be wiling to cooperate.
The readiness to discover oneself makes the starting point of psychological cooperation.
Psychotherapy is a kind of journey into your personality, a journey full of small and big discoveries, during which you are learning about yourself and regaining control over what is happening with you and your unconscious patterns. In order to do it, you have to be ready for a deep work, ready to discover the mechanisms underlying your behavior, and have the willingness to understand them and have a closer look at yourself.
Task- oriented attitudes – the wish to “dispose of the problem” – can be an obstacle in regaining or building up real internal freedom. It happens so because symptoms usually turn out to be just the tip of the iceberg. This is why in the therapy I offer to look at your life as a whole. Getting rid of the problem fast gives some relief, but it does not melt the whole iceberg. For example, in some cases it may be relatively easy (although still very much difficult) to end a destructive relationship or change a job environment in which a person is treated unfairly, but the pattern of forming such relations will remain untreated.
This situation is especially important when it comes to psychosomatic symptoms, in which it is of special significance to understand the underlying causes, and it is essential to take into account the whole life context of the patient. Working on symptoms in isolation will be ineffective. It is crucial to find the links between the symptoms and the happenings causing them, which may seem unrelated at the first glance.
What I have written above does not actually contradict short-term help, if there is such a need. Dealing with just one problem or a part of it, proposing new type of thinking, knowledge and points of view of certain aspects of your life introduces more calmness and understanding of problems. Setting up only one visit or just a few consultations can provide valuable support, provide an occasion to become more acquainted with psychotherapeutic work, to ease the fear of meeting a psychologist, and provide a patient with some knowledge in order to help him or her deal with what is happening in their life.